The bond with a mother is the most precious relationship a child has. The connection in with a biological child is never really considered. The Lord knits hearts in the womb, with each newborn feeding and returning during separation anxiety. By toddler years, they know mom is home base. But for a child that does not know what having a mommy looks like, each interaction must be completely intentional. This primary relationship between a mommy and the baby lays the foundation for every single relationship to come... siblings, friends and even spouses. Here are some questions that will help you think through the transition time.
How involved will other family members be? Will there be a time of adjustment?
What are the boundaries and language you will use to communicate your heart to those family members?
How will you guide your new child to come to you and not an older sibling? How will that boundary be set for your other children?
It may seem easier to address these questions when the child arrives. However, facing unexpected situations during a transition when everyone is sleep deprived may not be wise. Also, you need to be sensitive to the amount of time your family's hearts need to process boundaries you will set. I will write about some of things again. But in the end, your family is unique and the Lord will need to help you set the perfect boundaries for your child.
Proverbs 30:25 The ants are a people not strong, yet they prepare their food in the summer.
